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Love is in the Air.

How often do you lament that you wish you had someone special in your life; someone to share your hopes and dreams with; someone to share your love with and to hold and to cherish? The most important thing we can do for ourselves or anyone else is to love them. The old saying goes: If you want more love you have to give more love. And I believe that saying is true and I also know that you cannot be the person that someone else will love and cherish if you do not love and cherish yourself.

Many of the people I have coached have wanted more love in their lives and the hardest thing for them to understand is that they cannot fully love another until they can love themselves. Self love seems to be the most difficult kind of love. There are hundreds of reasons why; such as past experiences of being dumped by a previous boy/girl friend, or parents constantly reminding you of your shortcomings, or you constantly reminding yourself of your shortcomings, or feelings of simply not measuring up at work or in other relationships.

Our brains have a tendency to remember the negative things that have occurred in our lives and the negative things people have said much more readily than the positive things. In my coaching, people talk to me about the negative things they say to themselves all the time: “You’re so stupid; Why would anyone love you?; You’re not even pretty/handsome; People always abandon you; You’re not loveable; You make me sick.” They also tell me over and over again that they want to stop the flow of negativity in their thoughts.

Again, if you can’t love yourself how can you love someone else?

The most important relationship you will have in your lifetime is the one you have with yourself.

Without a doubt, the work you do to help eliminate the negative talk within yourself will do more to bring you all the love you desire than any amount of plastic surgery or new clothes. If you could only see yourself for who you really are, a magnificent being of light. I believe that Eric Butterworth put it best:

“You are a rich and creative spiritual being. You can never be less than this. You may frustrate yourself but within you now and always is the unborn possibility of a limitless experience of inner stability and outer treasure, and yours is the privilege of giving birth to it. And you will, if you can believe.” from Spiritual Economics: the Principles and Process of True Prosperity.

Believe in yourself and Love yourself! Love Deeply.

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